Hi, people. First of all, let me congratulate HAPPY EID MUBARAK 1432 H to every moslem of the world. Be joyful!
I'm just wondering, what have you done for the poor? You see, it's so painful for me watching the kids on the street. Do you think someday i can build a house for them? Do you think it's possible for me and you being together back to back to help them? I want to see them smile and wearing clean clothes. I want to make them play, either robot or barbie, not on the bridge nor on the street. Just play as a kid.
So, what will you do? I've got my plan which i like to share when i done do that. Friday, let's see on Friday.
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
Sunday, August 21, 2011
new life - new post - new beginning
The fact is that actually i am a really homebody (do i say it right?) person. I enjoy myself when i'm all alone at my room. I can spend 48 hours without going out of it, only listening to music, watching television and DVDs, cuddling on my pillow, and write. It's pacifying you know :D
And by this habit, i reject some of invitations to hang out with friends quite often, and yes sometimes i regret it. What do you know about regrets? Do you have much of it? I have one from my childhood, that is when i said no when my mom push me to get to a piano course, stupid me!
And so, i don't feel much of regrets in my life, cause i believe everything's happened with a reason. Instead, i feel kinda blessed, because i already make a couple of friends -friends from office- here at Jakarta. One of them is a barbarian girl, hahaha, but she's so pretty i'm telling you. Hi there, oddie :D
And also there's this one chubby friend who asked my opinion about my last post talked about cheating. He confirmed that he saw lets say unfairness to men about this cheating stuff. He asked me why is that if the man did the cheat everyone would say that the man is a jerk, while the woman did the cheat everyone would likely to say that the man couldn't make the woman happy till she had to cheat. Hahaha, it's kinda right actually i think. Sorry, boys!
Well, for me, that makes everything becomes fair right? Here, let me ask you back, why is that if there is a man who did so much sex everyone keeps calling him cool, while there's a girl do it as many as him everyone would call her a bitch? It's all about stereotype and it is a heritage, so just eat it and don't take it too personally and you'll be just fine.
Greetings from here to every monkey's reading. Xxx.
And by this habit, i reject some of invitations to hang out with friends quite often, and yes sometimes i regret it. What do you know about regrets? Do you have much of it? I have one from my childhood, that is when i said no when my mom push me to get to a piano course, stupid me!
And so, i don't feel much of regrets in my life, cause i believe everything's happened with a reason. Instead, i feel kinda blessed, because i already make a couple of friends -friends from office- here at Jakarta. One of them is a barbarian girl, hahaha, but she's so pretty i'm telling you. Hi there, oddie :D
And also there's this one chubby friend who asked my opinion about my last post talked about cheating. He confirmed that he saw lets say unfairness to men about this cheating stuff. He asked me why is that if the man did the cheat everyone would say that the man is a jerk, while the woman did the cheat everyone would likely to say that the man couldn't make the woman happy till she had to cheat. Hahaha, it's kinda right actually i think. Sorry, boys!
Well, for me, that makes everything becomes fair right? Here, let me ask you back, why is that if there is a man who did so much sex everyone keeps calling him cool, while there's a girl do it as many as him everyone would call her a bitch? It's all about stereotype and it is a heritage, so just eat it and don't take it too personally and you'll be just fine.
Greetings from here to every monkey's reading. Xxx.
Friday, August 12, 2011
c a s u a l
Banyak orang ga bisa bedain sesuatu. Ga bisa bedain mana yang bisa di-judge explicitly sebagai "right" or "wrong" dan mana yang more complex than just between right and wrong. Banyak yang ga bisa bedain kritis sama pesimis; bedain iri dan kagum. Boleh ga sih kalo gw bilang ini sebagai penyakit? Soalnya orang yang ga bisa bedain hijau dan kuning dibilang sakit buta warna parsial. Dan ga ada yang bakal bilang itu ga bahaya, soalnya jelas bahaya kalo lo ga bisa bedain warna traffic light, man.
Sama, ga bisa bedain mana masalah yang bisa diselesaiin pake right and wrong method dan mana yang ga bisa juga bahaya.
Bunuh orang itu jelas salah, no matter what the motive would be. Buat kasus ini cuma ada satu exception buat gw, yaitu kalo orang yang lo bunuh berusaha bunuh (dan atau) memperkosa lo atau orang di sekeliling lo. Selebihnya, man, bukan hak lo sama sekali buat matiin kesempatan seseorang buat hidup, even euthanasia -i'm in the con side.
Gimana kalo selingkuh? Denger katanya aja langsung lebih kompleks kan hal-hal yang berseliweran di otak lo? Option-nya bisa jadi lebih banyak; nih:
- Selingkuh karena pasangan yang payah, in so many ways
- Selingkuh karena kitanya yang banyak mau
- Selingkuh karena keadaan
- .......................................
- etc.
It's absolutely on the grey area.
Nah, bahayanya di mana kalo kita ga bisa bedain dua kasus di atas? Kalo lo mentok di only between right or wrong, bakal susah deh buat lo ngeluarin kata 'maaf'. Kalo dulu gw pernah nulis tentang 'how to apologize', sekarang lebih tentang 'how to forgive'. Try to put yourself in other's shoes. Bisa aja istri lo selingkuh karena bener-bener ga dapet your manhood that you should give actually, cause women need that. Terus lo ga mau maafin dia no matter how she'd been apologize to you, walaupun kalo mau diliat lagi sebenernya lo juga menyumbang alasan buat istri lo selingkuh. Man, ada kemungkinan selamanya lo ga bakal happy karena ga maafin orang yang lo sayang. Inget ya, gw bilang ga bakal happy karena lo ga maafin orang yang lo sayang, bukan karena lo ga bisa bareng-bareng atau sayang-sayangan lagi sama istri lo, karena seperti yang selalu gw percaya, we can't put happiness in other's feet. But, simply lo ga bisa seneng karena hati lo ga tenang for not forgiving. And not being happy while you live is a so much danger right, don't you think?
extension: karena gw sempet sebut iri vs kagum, sekalian deh bahas dikit. sebenernya hal-hal negatif tu bisa banget dirubah jadi hal-hal yang lebih positif. kenapa? soalnya, back to the very basic way, sesuatu bisa jadi positif ya karena ada sesuatu yang negatif and vice versa. jadi, coba deh, kalo lo lagi iri sama seseorang (btw, it is a natural thing anyway) ubah sudut pandangnya. coba buat ikhlas dan terima kalo orang itu 'lebih' dari kita. gw ga mau muluk-muluk bilang jadiin orang itu sebagai sesuatu yang memacu lo buat do something more, gw cuma pingin ingetin kalo rasa-rasa yang kayak gitu ga bakal bawa lo kemana-mana, instead, ke-iri-an lo bakal bring you down. jadi ya buat apa?
Sama, ga bisa bedain mana masalah yang bisa diselesaiin pake right and wrong method dan mana yang ga bisa juga bahaya.
Bunuh orang itu jelas salah, no matter what the motive would be. Buat kasus ini cuma ada satu exception buat gw, yaitu kalo orang yang lo bunuh berusaha bunuh (dan atau) memperkosa lo atau orang di sekeliling lo. Selebihnya, man, bukan hak lo sama sekali buat matiin kesempatan seseorang buat hidup, even euthanasia -i'm in the con side.
Gimana kalo selingkuh? Denger katanya aja langsung lebih kompleks kan hal-hal yang berseliweran di otak lo? Option-nya bisa jadi lebih banyak; nih:
- Selingkuh karena pasangan yang payah, in so many ways
- Selingkuh karena kitanya yang banyak mau
- Selingkuh karena keadaan
- .......................................
- etc.
It's absolutely on the grey area.
Nah, bahayanya di mana kalo kita ga bisa bedain dua kasus di atas? Kalo lo mentok di only between right or wrong, bakal susah deh buat lo ngeluarin kata 'maaf'. Kalo dulu gw pernah nulis tentang 'how to apologize', sekarang lebih tentang 'how to forgive'. Try to put yourself in other's shoes. Bisa aja istri lo selingkuh karena bener-bener ga dapet your manhood that you should give actually, cause women need that. Terus lo ga mau maafin dia no matter how she'd been apologize to you, walaupun kalo mau diliat lagi sebenernya lo juga menyumbang alasan buat istri lo selingkuh. Man, ada kemungkinan selamanya lo ga bakal happy karena ga maafin orang yang lo sayang. Inget ya, gw bilang ga bakal happy karena lo ga maafin orang yang lo sayang, bukan karena lo ga bisa bareng-bareng atau sayang-sayangan lagi sama istri lo, karena seperti yang selalu gw percaya, we can't put happiness in other's feet. But, simply lo ga bisa seneng karena hati lo ga tenang for not forgiving. And not being happy while you live is a so much danger right, don't you think?
extension: karena gw sempet sebut iri vs kagum, sekalian deh bahas dikit. sebenernya hal-hal negatif tu bisa banget dirubah jadi hal-hal yang lebih positif. kenapa? soalnya, back to the very basic way, sesuatu bisa jadi positif ya karena ada sesuatu yang negatif and vice versa. jadi, coba deh, kalo lo lagi iri sama seseorang (btw, it is a natural thing anyway) ubah sudut pandangnya. coba buat ikhlas dan terima kalo orang itu 'lebih' dari kita. gw ga mau muluk-muluk bilang jadiin orang itu sebagai sesuatu yang memacu lo buat do something more, gw cuma pingin ingetin kalo rasa-rasa yang kayak gitu ga bakal bawa lo kemana-mana, instead, ke-iri-an lo bakal bring you down. jadi ya buat apa?
Cheers!
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